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If you are able to motivate your child to study, then you are already half-
1. Stay engaged – Let them know you are with them. Go to those school functions. Get to know the teachers and other parents. When they see that you care about their school stuff, they’ll care more also.
When you see valuable resources that can benefit your child’s education, tell the teacher about it. For instance, there are now efforts to develop complete online curricula for students of all ages, such as the K16 Bridge program by the Lewis Center for Educational Research in Apple Valley, California. Talk to your district board to see if they want to be part of that program.
Another valuable resource is Khan Academy. There are thousands of videos and hundreds of exercises for students to watch and practice on. Many kids today would rather sit in front of their own computers and learn on their own pace. This may be a way to reach the digital generation.
2. Influence their choice of friends – If your kids associate with kids who want to study and go to college, their chances of going to college greatly increases. At this stage of their lives, peer influence can often be greater than parental influence. Therefore, making sure that they associate with the right people is crucial.
Teenagers may sound like that they care more about their friends than their parents, but in reality most of them still value their parents’ opinions a lot. It’s just not “cool” to be seen as listening to your parents. And so parents need to be subtle in expressing their opinions about their kids’ friends. The key is to influence, not dictate. Forceful intervention may work initially, but sometimes you end up winning the battle but losing the war.
3. Equip them properly – Some basics are absolutely necessary, such as a computer,
printer, and Internet access at home. For school, they do not need expensive, top-
4. Find them the resources they need and utilize the tools around you– Sometimes
they just need some help. You can help them find the right tutors. In many schools,
there are student tutors who are willing to help others for free. If you feel that
your child needs long-
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Don’t forget those video lessons and online exercises from the Khan Academy.
5. Don’t rely on schools to do all the teaching – Nowadays we are all too busy and
we tend to delegate all teaching-